Power of Choice

I am reading to my daughter the book, Waya The Warrior Wolf, a fable written for children by Paul Rothmann. We are only on page 43, so we have 100 more pages to go. I am tempted to read it on my own. Then, I will read to her separately, as and when she’s willing to listen.


I attended the Business Book Club at Skoobs yesterday, Tuesday. With all my friends, except one, not making it, I suspected the possible reason for people’s temporary situations becoming permanent. I brushed it off. Temporarily.


Did I just lose my marbles and wrote an awful beginning of a blog post? Give me the benefit of a doubt.


I told myself last year that I would expend less energy on business or career as my focus shifted to my craft, my passion, my art: writing. I attended the Business Book Club because my friend Bjorn has been asking me to check it out, and I have a friend, Nikki, interested in developing herself in business, which means I now have company in my journey of grown, although mine is more for my personal life than my career life. The fact that Vusi Thembakwayo was the guest for April got my commitment.

Vusi Thembakwayo

I only “discovered” Vusi Thembakwayo last year at the Finance Indaba. My presence in the room where he was speaking was not even deliberate. It was simply that no topic grabbed my attention for that session, so I decided to sit tight where I was, where I listened, on purpose, to the amazing Martijn Aslander.

I didn’t agree to everything Vusi said but he made a lot of sense to me. I had questions, I always question, but it didn’t stop me from thinking he was a darned great speaker. I still did not know who he was or what he did. He was simply a motivational speaker, as far as I was concerned.

I had visited Vusi’s website, albeit briefly. Thus, when I got to the Business Book Club, I was expecting him to inspire us with a talk. It also escaped me that the event is basically an interview with authors of business, educational and/or leadership books. Maybe other authors, too, whose works can be considered beneficial in business or career. I will find out. For now, I found out Vusi is an author. He wrote the business book, The Magna Carta of Exponentiality. I must remember to get a copy.

Paul Rothmann’s Waya

Paul Rothmann’s book teaches children about the power of choice and other values. I have not even read a third of the book and I was already convinced that the book should be read not only by children but by adults. In fact, it should be for us first. So many adults do not understand “own choice”. We fail to see that even when we allow others to influence us, to change our actions, it is still our own choice to be influenced. Choosing to keep quiet and be a martyr, or to squeal and be a traitor, at gun point, is still a choice. The question isn’t whether it is a good or bad choice, or right or wrong choice.

Furthermore, we tend to think that not all choices change our lives. Sometimes, some changes are not obvious until we see the change that the small change caused.

“I won’t go ________ because it’s raining. I don’t like driving in the rain.”

Missing one event makes no difference in my life.

How certain am I?

(Sorry, my friend, I am using this as an example.)

Paul Rothmann’s book continues and talks about the either changing circumstances or changing perception. We have the power to choose to do so.

My lesson

The discussion at the Business Book Club on finding a niche instead of competing was stimulating. I realize it’s not easy to be a pioneer, to start something new without competition, but it has more hope of surviving than entering a market where competitors are ginormous dinosaurs.

Writer me:

We won’t go there because books have formulae. My romance must follow the formula to succeed. I can’t recreate the wheel; I must use the tried and tested formula for non-fiction books. Fine! Fortunately, I wasn’t going to dwell on that. My intuition will tell me how to proceed.

The talk moved on to leadership.

I am taking this away with me not because it was the answer to my question but because it made me realize something applicable to life outside of a career or business. It makes sense even when used in our personal lives.

How do you lead a varied group of individuals? How do you motivate them? We all know there are not many who understand where the entrepreneur stands. Employees rarely do. Without good work ethics, it’s even more challenging.

Vusi said it was a great question, and that when I find out I should let him know. He’s a funny guy, but with quite a sharp mind. ☺

Vusi said that leaders actually choose who they lead. Even when leaders inherit a team, in six months, the leader knows the team. The leader chooses the “team members” who remain; he chooses who he will continue to lead.

My mind started to wander. Our nation’s new President, Mr. Cyril Ramaphosa, did just that, I thought. Actually, I only thought of it as I’m writing this blog post. 😄

Vusi is right.

So, why don’t we do it in our personal life? Okay, I know some do, but many of us get stuck with “team members” who don’t understand the power of choice; “team members” who complain incessantly but don’t change their circumstances or perceptions; “team members” who blame others for their lives instead of recognizing that their own choices led them where they are.

We can choose the people who are good for us. As much as we can choose who are the people we lead at work or in business, we can choose our own people, those who will help us grow and transcend the circumstance in which we were born, or our current situation.

The power of choice: it is truly awesome!

2 thoughts on “Power of Choice

  1. I said in my review of Waya the Warrior Wolf that it’s something between Aesop’s fables and the Art of War — it’s truly a great book. Just a pity I can’t seem to find it anywhere online. (Except for the Goodreads entry I made for it.)
    Yes: we choose what we can and cannot do, what we will accept and what we won’t accept, how we’ll react in different situations, etc.
    Great post 🙂

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    1. I’m really loving the book. You are simply awesome. You create these entries for others. Maybe he’ll consider Amazon. 😊

      Thank you so much, Ronel. I learn everywhere, from everything, all the time, it seems. 😊🤗

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