Do you ever feel guilty about being blessed? How often do you board the train that takes you on a guilt-trip? For Catholics, guilt comes easy. For an Asian Catholic, guilt comes even more easily. I am an Asian Catholic. It is expected that I will sometimes write about guilt as I did a little…… Continue reading What is your bottom line?
Three months into your relationship, it becomes apparent that the honeymoon phase is over. True colors start to show. Reality bites and you start to feel it. But, you settle all the same. It is a comfortable space despite the unpleasant aspects of the situation. The bad and the ugly will disappear, you think, or…… Continue reading Relationships
Note: As with legal contracts, reference to “men” also refers to “women”. (Is that patriarchal or has it not hidden meaning? Legal documents tend to be long and we simply make some effort to shorten them.) In South Africa, at two minutes before midnight a little over twelve hours ago (at the time of writing)—23:58…… Continue reading Of Men and Moon
In full consciousness, I do my utmost to remember to stay still and keep to myself quietly when an extreme emotion engulfs me, especially when that emotion falls under the lower part of the happiness bar. I am learning to postpone making any major decision when the current level of my joy is significantly above…… Continue reading Deliberate living: outside of an average day
“Come,” the faceless voice whispers to me. “Keep walking. Come here. Come in here.” I see an open door. I squint. Do I think I could see inside if I do? I only see darkness past the doorway, but I don’t have to see with my eyes what the room holds. I have been there.…… Continue reading Voice in my head
I long for an equal playing field where determining factors exclude family or relations, color or creed, gender or sexuality, age, or even length of legs, type of hair, size of waistline, and the like, and where we are all treated the same, unless the job calls for thin, long legs that carry a bony…… Continue reading My heart’s desires
It is true. What I learned about life thus far still applies. Of many, one specific lesson has not changed: nothing stays the same. Everything in life is temporary. Nothing in life is constant, except death and taxes, you would say, of course. I remain pondering… Do I want to be right or do I…… Continue reading Being right is overrated